Why Men Are Resistant to Therapy
Over the years of working with men as a psychologist, I discovered that there is a big resistance for so many of them to talk personally about their struggles within their intimate relationships and I...
View ArticleWhat Goes On in the Mind of Your Therapist?
As you sit in your therapy session, sifting through your own thoughts, do you ever wonder what your therapist is feeling and thinking? When you open up and disclose so much of yourself to someone it’s...
View ArticleSeparation Theory
[Separation Theory] is integrative even beyond the blending of the psychoanalytic and existential views… It views people as being innately innocent rather than destructive or corrupt, and thereby it...
View ArticleYou Don’t Really Want to Get Better
Of course psychotherapy clients want relief from their symptoms, depression, anxiety, and other painful emotions. But at the same time, they don’t want to change the fundamental defenses that would...
View ArticleThe Fantasy Bond or Primary Defense
This is the first in a series of blogs describing my theoretical approach known as Separation Theory. It represents an integration of psychoanalytic and existential systems of thought and describes how...
View ArticleThe Paradox of Psychological Defenses
Should we contend with painful realities or avoid them? Although psychological defenses offer a degree of comfort and a form of security, they also predispose distortion and maladaptation in adult...
View ArticleVoice Therapy
In my last blog, I described the “voice” as a series of negative thoughts and attitudes toward self and others, which are at the core of a person’s self-destructive ideology and behavior. As such, the...
View Article“You Need Psychotherapy”
Psychotherapy is a luxury that you deserve. When I was in my early 20s, I went into psychotherapy. At that point in my life, I had tried all of the things that were supposed to bring me...
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